Absolutely D.E. ... ... ... Welcome to MIP, glad you're here with us ...

Absolutely there is 'Hope' ... Drink'n is only a symptom of a much deeper problem ... Basically, our think'n is the big problem ... when we learn to fix that, we then learn to live in 'as happy an environment' as we choose to live ... At 1st, I NEVER thought I'd learn to go one day without a drink ... but when we allow ourselves, our bodies, to get so run down we can hardly function, we decide we need help, or we'll die ... I've known many who chose to keep drink'n and not bother with recovery, they're no longer with us, they're 6' underground now ...

Have you tried an AA meet'n??? ... I suggest you go to a meeting TODAY and just sit there and listen ... if asked, only give your first name ... if you wish to participate, by all means, do so ...

Go to a meet'n and let us know how it went and what you think ... we're here to help, to explain things that might come across as a little fuzzy ... those of us who have recovered, worked the 12 steps in the Alcoholics Anonymous book, we call it the BB (Big Book of AA) ... be sure to ask for a BB before you leave, then read it ... come here to discuss things you wish to know more about ... we're stand'n by to help ...

It's fantastic that you've made a decision to 'reach out' ... THAT took a lot of guts ... keep take'n the right 'action' and you'll come to know a life you never thought possible ...



Love ya and God Bless,
Pappy

Noth'ns stopping you from do'n that, only your desire to try and stop is all you have right now ... took me a long time before I came to grips with just what alcohol was do'n to me ... and I hated how it made me treat others, especially the family I loved ... they did not deserve the way I treated them ... many times family relationships are destroyed beyond repair ... so if it's salvageable, AA is definitely the way to go ... be patient and try your best to learn how we did it ... if an alcoholic of my type can stop drink'n through AA, then ANYONE can if that is what they truly desire ...

I didn't say it would be easy, it won't ... but if your heart is in the right place, we will show you how we did it ... it's what we do ...

Hello, Desert, and we are glad you came here!

I don't know a whole lot, but I do know this: if you keep drinking, it gets worse. Right now, it's a bottle of wine. I don't know what time each day you start drinking, but, if it ain't in the morning yet, it eventually will come to that. And that bottle of wine will turn into 2 bottles. And then, you might start drinking the hard stuff, cause it will take too much wine to satisfy your alcohol  craving, and you will get sick of having to drink that much liquid to start feeling "good". So, even though you may not even like the taste of hard liquor now, (nobody liked it when they first started) eventually, you will learn to like it. And that stuff is the poison, concentrated. Bad news.

a lot of people have to hit bottom, before they just can't take it any more, and decide they can't go on anymore, and, if they do, they feel an impending doom...it's like, you get to a point where you know you're gonna die if you keep drinking.

you haven't hit bottom yet. If you did, then you wouldn't still have your job, and still be taking care of your responsibilities. So, you have a choice. This is going to sound harsh, and, sort of presumptious, but, if you don't stop now, you will hit bottom. You will lose your job, and you will neglect your responsibilities. You will lose everything, or, almost everything, and your life will be more than a big mess, it will become unbearable. So, you can do something about it now, before you lose everything, or, you can wait. The farther you fall, though, the harder it is to climb out.

im not trying to scare you, or anything like that. I'm just telling you from my own personal experience, and, from my observation of other alcoholics. 

Me, I quit right before I hit bottom. But I was getting close. And, I'm glad I stopped before I lost everything. Because,,like I said, it's that much harder to climb back up.

Im coming up on 50 years old, I've been quit now for a little over 2 years. I never in my life thought I could live without alcohol. But the truth is, I couldn't live WITH alcohol anymore. And quitting was the best thing I've ever done. My only regret, is that I didn't stop sooner. Life is WAY better without that stuff. It takes a little time to get used to it, but once you do, you'll be a happy person. Way happier than when you were drinking. 

You should try to go to an AA meeting. It might seem a little scary, but, it's really not. The people at the meetings are just regular people, but they had/have a drinking problem. And they talk about it at the meetings, and try to help each other out. It's a very friendly place to be, and the people there have either been through, or, are still going through, what you're going through now. Nobody is gonna yell at you, or laugh at you, (unless maybe if you wear a clown outfit). They are there just to talk and listen to each other. You can go there, and just listen. And, if you don't like it, nobody is going to force you to keep going. And, there is free coffee.

good luck, Desert. We hope to hear from you here again.

Hey DE, ... Were you able to make a meet'n yesterday??? ... just curious! ... if so, How'd it go??? ...

It means alcohol is not our problem, it is our solution. What the book is talking about is us having a "hole in the soul" and if you are the real deal you may be suffering from an illness that only a spiritual experience can fix. Sounds like a lot to swallow. Keep going back to meeti gs.

Thank you for the really thorough explanation. I am embarrassed I drank the same night I went to a meeting. Part of me is afraid to go back because of that. But I will go. I did get a Big Book (they gave me one) but I haven't started reading it. I will do that today. I am going to a meeting on Saturday with someone I met. I don't want to be like this. I feel like it is very hard to cut the tie with alcohol though but I know I have to. So why did I drink again? It made me feel worse.