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I'm in a vert bad place. You see I could not leave well enough alone and caught my wife with another man. Just didn't want her stringing me along so I could get on with my life. Now I'm in violation of my RO. This is too much for one alcoholic heart to take in a lifetime. Drinking won't help or change anything. I'm so used worthless and betrayed when I tried to do the right thing. I won't go to jail it would be too much of a hard road of recovery if I did. I would go insane. To much wreckage more like carnage. Thx for all your support it's been nice knowing you. See you in the next life. Ron AKA Wisdom67's husband.

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Been there done that. Cut your losses and move on. It happens to a lot of us. Wife #2 is awesome

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Hang in there Enigma....I lost my wife of 17 years.....My fault and nobody elses. Life goes on after that. God has a plan for me...And she wasn't part of it. Move on...Better things to come. I found that out.

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WE always leave the light on..I have been married 3x,,Divorced 2x,lost my now 48&47 year old children for many years and came through the storm,knowing no matter what I couldn't pick up again(after more than 25 years of evidence and trial)Every day in Recovery offers other opportunities.I will lift you up in prayer and can truly identify.Hope to see you again....



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And Im going to take the other route...

NOT being married is awesome...

Freedom to do what I wish..With whom I wish...When I wish..:)

Ive been married more times then there are days in the week...almost

Someone should have shot me..

Ive gone to AA before...having the main thought in my mind of...Getting my family back..and screwed it up with Alky actions and thinking..

Look at me now Sweety..Im sober...and a nice guy...again..Yaaa right..

Well..Reality was...My spouse had had enough...and likely deserved better...

I screwed it up..NOone else..and I am responsible for my actions..and hafta take the consequenses..

Yup...Did a couple of stints in jail..Colour tv...good food..If it comes to that? You did the crime..Do the time..and itll be over with...

If you get your butt back to AA...and get sober for YOU...Things will get better...

Some doors close..Others open..

You want to do yourself in? That doesn't work either..Everyone will miss you for a few days...and the world will carry on..

You want to drink? We all know where that leads..

So..Pick yourself up..Dust yourself off...and get with the program..Better things ahead!!



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Don't give up just before the miracle happens Enigma ... Like I suggested to BTY, don't rent space in your head for this situation to take control of your thinking ... we take life just one day at a time ... you never know what tomorrow will bring, but if you're not around, you'll never have the chance to experience it ... ... ... what's done is done ... and cannot be undone ...



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I will say that I have placed too much importance on having another person in my life and not nearly as much stock into becoming a person with confidence and self-esteem. Thought I had to have another person to make me feel "good enough", "loved", etc. That's BS. When I didn't have that person in my life anymore I often thought I couldn't get through it, wanted to die, etc. I did get through it. Takes time. I felt worthless plenty of times too. (I'm not and never was and neither are you). Worst thing in the world for me to do was to jump into another relationship as soon as another person walked by that was as needy as I was. Then that relationship didn't work because I hadn't gotten over the previous one(s) and had too much garbage I hadn't dealt with.

The heart does heal. In time, yours will too. It hurts. That's life. If it didn't hurt when relationships end, I doubt we'd have the capacity to love in the first place and to love again. You will but I hope that you fall in love with yourself and your HP before you put yourself out there for someone else.



BTY



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This is what it means in HOW IT WORKS .... "WE stood at the turning point".
On simple faith (the size of a mustard seed) we put our trust in the Program of AA and embrace it with complete abandon.
We have nothing left to lose.

We have to come to the point where we are beaten to grasp the program. We have to hit bottom. Have you hit bottom? Then pray to God and get to the meetings.

I can do this, you can do this. Just begin to do this.

Bob R.

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Love your post Bob ... and the other posts are very positive too ... thanks for your input ...



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Hey, Enigma. You are in my prayers. But I wanted to share something. That's why in BB is written "We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill."
I am dominated by world and its people when I live with the idea that my happiness and good condition depends on human. Because it is not true. My happiness, your happiness don't depend on people around you, or situations, or other conditions and so on. It depends only on your conscious contact with your Higher Power.

The same thing with me. Yes, I can be mad, angry, because someone else didn't treated me good (the way I want to treat me) and in BB is written that resentment is Number 1 offender. But no matter how angry I am, or hurt ... I'm going to die, not the other person. And even other person dies, I won't be happy, too. Because for my disease it won't be enough others to be dead. I want more. I want to see them suffering the way I suffer, feel the things I'm feeling, with the same pain, even more. And this life, full of pain isn't okay.

I refuse to bear the pain of the world, because there Is Someone, Who will bear it instead of me. And when I see how unmanageable is my life, how much I need my HP (exactly because of the pain - I'm not in A.A. because of my happy life), when I turn (only turn) my will and my life to care of God, when I honestly see only my part of the things (my selfishness-self-centeredness, my pride, expectations, requirements, and so on), when I fully give my problems to Him (HP), I can live each day free from this terrible pain and feel of uselessness, to be free of this life without meaning.

If you want to do it and if you do it the way, which id described in BB, I can guarantee that you're going to laugh at this after time. Because now I do it. When I look in past, with all that drama, attempts for suicide, only because of one person (on at a time, but almost in all my relationships I went to that moment - with drama, cryings and so on.)

So, come on .. you are not alone. Nobody have stolen your toy.



-- Edited by myownhell on Friday 18th of April 2014 02:07:03 PM

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What a great post myownhell. Very well said.

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Ditto ... great post myownhell ...



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