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Maturity
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Maturity in Relationships
by Larry James
LoveNote. . . To be capable of real love means becoming mature, with realistic expectations of the other person. It means accepting responsibility for our own happiness or unhappiness, and neither expecting the other person to make us ha...
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Some sicker than others
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When I "joined" AA last year I heard it said many, many times, "stick with the winners" So that's what I decided to do. I made enough meetings to try to figure out just who the winners are. It took a while, but a couple months back, the winners began to want to be around me also and we have become very cl...
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Welcome Newcomers and Guests
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Hope you folks decide to stay and add your experiance, strength and hope to this forum.
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Inspirational Song
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I was sent the link to this song and had to pass it on,
Song is called "Shot Of Grace"
http://www.michaelgresham.com/ShotOfGrace.mp3
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Introductions
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Hi to you all!
I have been hanging around and perusing this site for several weeks. Grateful to have found ya’ll before the holidays! I have left a response to a couple of posts, but I figure it is time for me to step up to the plate and introduce myself. I have only now found...
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acceptance
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yes. i accept this program, i accept my sponsor, i accept bad days and good days, i am in acceptance because it is a better way of life. it brings joy to me when i let go and let God. Acceptance for me is going to be the success of this program, and that is a lifetime.
ty my aa family and my intermediate family...
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Hey all- weekend update
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Thought I'd drop a line here to say hello, wherever you may be!
I hope you are having relaxing and fulfilling weekends.
As for me, I am well. I just finished a fifth step with my sponsor- I have done one before, but I think he gave me some new perspectives- Like I often muse that if it were not for my pic...
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Sunday
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Vulnerability
Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and reco...
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Daily Reflection Jan 8
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DO I HAVE A CHOICE? The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so-called willpower becomes practically nonexistent. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.24 My powerlessness over alcohol does not cease when I quit drinking. In sobriety I still have no c...
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from "The Language Of Letting Go"
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Dealing with Painful Feelings
Feelings of hurt or anger can be some of the most difficult to face. We can feel so vulnerable, frightened, and powerless when these feelings appear. And these feelings may trigger memories of other, similar times when we felt powerless.
Sometimes, to gain a sen...
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Quotes
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"As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey." - Thomas Edison "Sit all day in a moping posture, sigh, and reply to everything with a dismal voice, and your melancholy lingers." - William James "The optimist goes to the window every morning and says, 'Good morning, God.' The pessimist goes to t...
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Personal Update.....
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Well, I've decided this guy is worth taking a chance on. He's Sweet, caring, kind, tenderhearted, funny, a gentleman and OH sooooo good looking (that never hurts) !
My sobriety comes first, the rest will follow.
Thanks for the support.
Love...
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Daily Reflection Jan 7
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Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked His protection and care with complete abandon. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59 Every day I stand at turning points. My thoughts and actions can propel me toward growth or turn me down the road to old habi...
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Under the influence at the podium
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Hi, i'm new here. I could use a little advice please. One of our members has recently gone out. 2 months ago I was shocked to see him, very much under the influence, chairing a meeting. I called him on it and much drama has happened since then. 2 nights ago I walked into a meeting to see him at the podium and I l...
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New Med. has dehydrated Alcohol HELP
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Hi everyone,
I have taken an aerosol Inhaler for 7 years for Pulmanary Problems. The Drug is Called Atrovent. Iwas told that formula was changing, taking out the Flouro carbides as a propellant. When I first used the new drug it has a taste of Alcohol to it. - Scared the S--...
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Serenity In Me Through AA-2
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Serenity In Me Through AA-2
During the active and practicing alcoholic days, I did not have the feeling of belonging and the feeling of being accepted. Now I have both in AA.I now believe strongly through the steps, that ser...
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A Big Post About Shame And Guilt
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GUILT Results from   Results in: a feeling of wrong-doing, a sense of wic...
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WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
A quote from Hugh Downs.
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hello
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Hi everyone. my nameis Jim and im a alcoholic. i just signed up and would like to say hello to everyone this am. god bless and help someone stay sober today.
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Daily Reflection Jan 6
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THE VICTORY OF SURRENDER We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength. Our admissions of personal powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which happy and purposeful lives may be built. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITION...
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When I am negative or pessimistic..
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When I am negative or pessimistic I: look at the worst side of a situation. say what ``I'm not'' rather than what ``I could be.'' lack the belief that I could change. lose hope in the future. take the opposing view in any positive conversation. am unable to make upbeat or uplifting comments about myse...
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Nice Place
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Hi Folks I'm Bry,
A friend told me about this site and I've been poking around and you seem like a great bunch. I'm from upstate New York and have been sober since 10/23/2004. It took 3 years to get this 1 back when I relapsed after being sober for almost 7 years. I hadn't had my last drink and I pray each day...
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Serenity In Me Through AA
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SERENITY IN ME THROUGH AA
I have an elated feeling of belonging to a privileged band of people in AA. This sense of belonging is very much important to me, since I didn’t seem to belong anywhere or to anything during...
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$250.00 a month
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Thats what I spend on beer and smokes. Sheese what a waste!!! Add it up over the years and my worst hangover doesnt compare to the wasted feeling I get thinking about all that squandered money. This time next year Im going to have $ 3000.00 I didnt spend!!!! Thinking I want to go to a AA...
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A few Quotes For Today
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Do not wait for ideal circumstances; they will never come.
Janet Erskine Stuart
There is no such thing as a free ticket; every decision has both opportunity and cost.
Priscilla Elfrey
A peacefulness follows any decision, even the wrong one.
Rita Mae Brown
No matter how much informatio...
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Teenagers affecting my sobriety
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I thank God for this program. This weekend I had to work and ex stayed with the kids this weekend. I come home and my teens have snuck beer into the house and where drinking. I did't yell,but I was baffled. My 18 year old had just come home for just a couple of days and I did not want...
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Daily Reflection Jan 5
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TOTAL ACCEPTANCE He cannot picture life without alcohol. Some day he will be unable to imagine life either with alcohol or without it. Then he will know loneliness such as few do. He will be at the jumping-off place. He will wish for the end. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.152 Only an alcoholic can understan...
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Unlocking The Door
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STEP THREE "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him"
Practicing Step Three is like the opening of a door which to all appearances is still closed and locked. All we need is a key, and the decision to swing the door open. There is only one key, and it is c...
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Silent Withdrawal And Anger
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Is silent withdrawal an expression of anger?
By silently withdrawing into myself, isolating myself from others, I show anger in a passive way. I am: angry over some real or perceived offense. incapable of venting my anger openly and prefer to remain silent. afraid of an outburst of anger, afrai...
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How I made it to AA(continued)
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I'm Chris, alcoholic.
My Mother and Father met in a bar in Biloxi, Ms. He was 26 and she was 14. My Mother looked and dressed much older. She wasn't drinking. She was looking for someone to rescue her.
My Father was a sort of celebrity. Aside from being a cler...
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Daily Reflection Jan 4
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BEGIN WHERE YOU ARE We feel that elimination of our drinking is but a beginning. A much more important demonstration of our principles lies before us in our respective homes, occupations and affairs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.19 It's usually pretty easy for me to be pleasant to the people in an A.A. se...
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Ottawa program offers drinks to homeless alcoholics
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Hi guys! I came across this and am interested to know your "take" on it?
Doll
Ottawa program offers drinks to homeless alcoholics Last Updated Mon, 02 Jan 2006 21:37:10 EST CBC News
Shelters across the country are taking a closer look at an Ottawa shelter that gives drinks to homeless alc...
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Support not understood
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As I have said before the A that is in my life is my mom. She was ok with the idea of me being on the MIP Alateen, Alanon, and ACoA message boards when she found out. She is would be ok if I started going to Alanon. This makes no sense to me....can any of you explain this to me?
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binge drinker or alcoholic?? or same
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a quick simple question.............
as i described in an earlier post, my wife is what i call a 'binge drinker' in that she does not drink on a regular basis, but when she does [approx 3-4 times a year] , she drinks until she pukes and drops. does that make her an alcoholic by definition?? ...
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Daily Reflection Jan 3
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POWERLESS We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had become unmanageable. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 It is no coincidence that the very first Step mentions powerlessness: An admission of personal powerlessness over alcohol is a cornerstone of the founda...
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Great meeting tonight
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Well I think I found my answer re: emotional overload. The first speaker tonight was telling his story and a lot of it sounded like mine. Then when got to the part about finding AA, he said how at his first meeting he stood up, admitted he was an alcoholic and cried.
Bam! That...
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Opinions wanted...
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OK, most of you know me pretty good I guess I try to always work this program and I KNOW it's recommended NOT to START a relationship in the first year. and I understand why. Here's my question: should I? shouldn't I? I haven't talked to my sponsor about this..He's&nbs...
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Today's Gift 01/02
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Today's Thought MONDAY , JANUARY 02, 2006
You are reading from the book Today's Gift.
Happiness is like manna; it is to be gathered and enjoyed every day. --Tryon Edwards
Life is like a winding path surrounded by flowers, butterflies, and delicious fruit, but many of us spend much of life loo...
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Being Vulnerable
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Vulnerability is:Feeling of being exposed to emotional hurt, being taken advantage of, or abused.Feeling of being fragile, weak, or susceptible to emotional pain and suffering. Feeling of being trapped or imprisoned in a situation where your feelings and rights are ignored. Opening o...
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Hazelden
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Healthy Limits
Boundaries are vital to recovery. Having and setting healthy limits' is connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to really love and value ourselves.
Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go...
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Wishing everyone a wondrous 2006
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Thank You for your support and fellowship this past 2 months- I was able to ring in the New Year sober, as I hope you were too!
Take Care,
Joel
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Daily Reflections Jan 2
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FIRST, THE FOUNDATION Is sobriety all that we can expect of a spiritual awakening? No, sobriety is only a bare beginning. As Bill Sees It, p. 8 Practicing the A.A. program is like building a house. First I had to pour a big, thick concrete slab on which to erect the house; that, to me, was the...
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drink til you puke??
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Happy and merry to you all!!
I'm new to this and don't even know if i am on the appropriate forum for my problem, so please hear me out and/or refer me to another forum that can help.
about me.....i'm an amercan ex-pat [50's]retired and living in Thailand. married for 5 yrs to a Thai woman [35]&...
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Lost and Found
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Thought I'd share some lines from one of my favorite songs, with all of you on this New Year's Eve.
"Amazing grace, how sweet the sound, that saved a wretch like me......
I once was lost, but now, I'm found....
I was blind, but now, I see."
I used to lose all kinds of things dur...
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New Here
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Hello everyone. My name is Denise and I'm new to this group and I'm an alcoholic. As of yesterday I was on day 12 of sobriety. Today I'm starting over. I feel horrible that I slipped up, but I know I can do this. I hope to meet some new friends in here.
Happy New Yea...
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a New Year, A new Beginning
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Hi to all, just want to wish everyone a wonderful and Sober year.
There are so many goods Posts this morning, my computer is acting like a two year old, I have been spending hours on the Board with Replies, when i go to Send, the message is deleted.
Congratulations Doll!!...
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Gotta, gotta, gotta share it !
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WOO HOO! Damn it! I feel GRRREEAAT! My very first New Year's day without a hangover, still drinking, still drunk or hugging the porcelain god!!
I spent last night at my home groups Alco-thon. We had a BLASSST! I laughed so hard thought I was gonna wet my pants a couple times. We cooked the trad...
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A link to find meetings in ur area
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www.anonymousone.com
Go to the bottom of the home page and select "meetings." Enter your preferred group and geographical location for local meeting places and times.
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AA Thought for today
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30 years in the belly of the beast...
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Hi all,
Just wanted to let you all know how much this forum is helping me. Yup, thirty years of being controled, dominated and bitch slapped by a meer liquid. Spent most of the last 30 years planning my entire life around my addiction to alcohol. I am probably one of the most functional dr...
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